PCE 38th Monthly Event! For those who missed the annual conference in September, here is your chance again! Listening to Dr. Tobias again on screen! Even better, Dr. Bonnie Liao will lead the discussion!

PCE Club will hold its 38th event on October 14th, 2006, from 6:50pm to 9:30pm, at Asian Cultural Enterprises Center, 1876 Rt. 27, Edison, NJ 08817. As usual, this event will be composed of two sessions, Education Seminar and Children program.

Just a few things about Dr. Tobias and his respected conference speech.

Steven Tobias, Psy.D, the "Emotionally Intelligent Parenting Doctors" and coauthors of the recently released Emotionally Intelligent Parenting. Dr. Tobias is director of the Center for Child and Family Development, a multidisciplinary evaluation and treatment facility in Morristown, New Jersey, and coauthor of several books on facilitating emotional intelligence and social skills. He has coauthored several books. Dr. Tobias's areas of expertise include the social and emotional development of children, attention deficit/hyperactivity disorder, diagnosis of learning disabilities, and parenting. He conducts training workshops for parents and professionals and serves as a consultant to schools throughout NJ. Dr. Tobias has spoken at numerous national and international conferences.

Dr. Steven E. Tobias's keynote address, "Emotionally Intelligent Parenting", will focus on some of the key skills we need to teach our children, such as awareness of feelings, empathy, and self-discipline. These are the skills necessary to raise responsible and caring individuals with the ability to form positive social relationships. However, society often makes teaching these skills and the values that go along with them difficult. Strategies for teaching skills and reinforcing values will be introduced.

As you've seen in earlier summary by Yingting Zhang, Dr. Tobias pointed out 5 goals of emotional intelligence during the conference:
1. Be aware of one's own feelings and those of others. Three kinds of feelings are often confused by many people: anger, frustration and disappointment. Differentiating these three feelings is very
important. Anger comes from hurt. It's a secondary emotion. Some may react to this feeling by hurting others. With frustration, one can either keep trying, or take a break, or seek help. Disappointment
means you do not get what you wanted. As parents, we need to teach our kids how to differentiate these 3 feelings. Of course other feelings are crucial too.
2. Show empathy and understand others' point of view. Remember children have a tremendous capacity for empathy. It requires us to read non-verbal cues to teach children how to empathize.
3. Regulate and cope positively with emotional and behavioral impulses. This is about self control. The ability to wait is important. "The longer you wait, the more you get." said Dr. Tobias. With the delay of gratification, you appreciate more what you wanted.
4. Be positive goal and plan oriented.
5. Use positive social skills in handling relationships. Teach kids how to accept criticism.

The kids program will continue to feature the well-loved "talent show". Here your children will stand up to demonstrate any kinds of talents, play musical instrument, sing a song, tell a story, perform a dance and so on. This part of the program has been so loved by kids and parent in the previous events. Due to the high rate of participation, we would have to use a lottery to select the performers and limit the time of each performer to 3 minute so that more kids can enjoy the stage time. If you children would like to have a performance, you need to register for them by specifying your children's name and performance with title when you register to this event.

Admission Fee: Free for members, $10 per family for non-members to share the
operation cost.

Location and Time:

Asian Cultural Enterprises Center, #1876 Rt.27, Edison, NJ 08817

Agenda
From 6:30pm to 9:30pm

Family Program:
6:30pm-7:00pm, Registration, networking and social
7:00pm-7:45pm, Children Performance (downstairs)
7:45pm-8:00pm, Break

Education Seminar (downstairs):
8:00pm-9:00pm, "Raising an emotional intelligent child" Video by Dr. Tobias and Dr. Bonnie Liao
9:00pm-9:30pm, Q & A, kids pick up and clean up. Kids Program (upstairs)
8:40pm-9:00pm, party time (need volunteers)
9:10pm, Kids pick up. No pick up later than 9:10pm please.

Important Note:

1. If your children want to have a talent performance, it is mandatory to register it you're your event registration.

2. Children over 4 years old (including 4) are encouraged to participate in an organized group activity during the Education Seminar session or they can play with themselves without disturbing the undergoing program. Children are definitely not allowed to make great noise and run around in the center during the session

3. Volunteers are needed to take the charge of children's programs. Please contact us if you are willing to help.