父母子女教育俱乐部第十三届教育研讨暨年会

2016 Annual Parenting Conference

Parent effectiveness training

Keynote Speaker: Yanhong Wheeler

流行语云: "投胎是个技术活"。

从某种意义上讲，孩子投胎到哪一类父母手中，的确奠定了他（她）这辈子生命质量的基调。 不过，能看到这篇公告的父母，估计都是比较关心孩子生命质量的，也就是说，孩子投胎投对了地方！

只是，这样一来，挑战就落到了父母肩上：即便下定决心无条件地爱孩子、尊重孩子，而一旦落实到日常生活的具体细节上，还是会遇到许多困惑，尤其是在跟孩子进行沟通方面，往往阻碍最大。

所以我们说："沟通是个技术活"。无效沟通往往适得其反，有效沟通则能事半功倍。 学会有效沟通，让孩子信任父母，乐于跟父母倾诉、对话、商议、合作。

为了建设良好的亲子关系，PCE今年夏天起开展了PET父母效能训练读书会，很多成员从读书和切磋中获益，讨论精彩纷呈。 本期年会，我们请到儿童教育专家小巫，通过具体的场景和案例，向与会者详细讲解亲子沟通的窍门，让孩子跟我们更贴心。

演讲流程：

• 1、征集与会者最迫切希望解决的沟通问题，尤其是具体场景；
• 2、通过演习，发现常见"沟通杀手"；
• 3、直观学习"戈登模式"，学会遇到问题先"戈登"一下；
• 4、通过实际案例演习，初步了解如何帮助处在问题区的孩子；
• 5、通过实际案例演习，初步了解在遇到不可接纳行为时，如何表达自己；
• 6、通过实际案例演习，初步了解如何用更有效的方式解决冲突；
• 7、最后，初步了解如何在无问题区增进亲子关系。

讲员介绍: 小巫,美籍儿童教育专家,十余本畅销书作者，两个孩子的妈妈。从事儿童教育、亲子关系和父母成长的研究、咨询以及培训事业16年,开创<艺术养育>父母培训课程,创办<小巫养育学堂>网络课堂。

毕业于北京大学,美国 Rutgers大学教育学硕士,美国 P.E.T.父母效能训练课程暨T.E.T. 教师训练课程英文讲师，完成三年制华德福中小学教师培训并曾于小学和初中任教。著有《让孩子做主》《接纳孩子》《小巫教你讲故事》《小巫教你编故事》等 10 余本畅销书籍,译著《无条件养育》，曾为多家杂志，网络，电视节目等媒体担任专家，返美定居前，在全国各地开办讲座和工作坊，深受年轻父母欢迎。

年会的第二部分<青少年实话实说>是每年俱乐部年会的亮点，很受家长及青少年的欢迎。几个青少年将对家长们普遍关心的一些问题分享他们的想法。

我们鼓励青少年与他们的父母一起参加本次研讨会, 这样更有助于父母和孩子共同的有效学习和提高。

Conference Agenda

• 12:00pm - 12:30pm Registration and networking
• 12:30pm - 12:45pm Opening remarks
• 12:45pm - 3:15pm Keynote speech ("投胎是个技术活")
• 03:15pm - 3:30pm Book Signing/Break
• 03:30pm - 5:30pm Fishbowl (<青少年实话实说>)

Fishbowl Forum participants (teenagers and recent graduates):

Amber Lin : is a sophomore at Princeton University, pursuing a degree in civil and environmental engineering and architecture. She plans to pursue a career in the sustainable design of urban infrastructure, but is also interested in the bigger picture of mitigating climate changes and how science, industry, and government will have to work together to achieve an environmentally sustainable society. Her current research focus in on rammed earth architecture at Princeton's Form Finding Lab, and she spent this past summer designing and constructing a spiraling rammed earth gazebo in Princeton'''' organic garden. She recently published an article in the Bulletin of the Atomic Scientists titled "Natural Gas as a Transition Fuel: A bridge too far?", leads the student group Princeton University Energy Association, and works as an intern at the Princeton Office of Sustainability. On campus, Amber is also involved in the Glee Club, contemporary female acappella group the Tigressions, and the Opera Company. Outside of school, she is a competitive bridge player and represented the USA on the Girls Team at the 16th World Youth Bridge Championship in Italy this summer.

Jaron Ge : Being a Chinese, one would think of me as an all honors student, getting straight As with a future career as a doctor or lawyer. That isn't me. As all my friends are studying for their next test, I'm out in the fields baking in the sun, doing my job as a baseball umpire. I remember one day as I was walking to my designated field to fill in a spot for an absent umpire, I found out that my partner was a 70-year old federated professional umpire. As I approached him, he sort of gave me this look, as if he was wondering if I was the actual umpire. His face turned into a mixture of confusion and shock, looking as if he was saying that they just couldn't find anybody better to be his partner. He started off with giving me his expectations that if I was going to work with him, I would have to follow this rule and that. I suppose he thought I was new to the whole thing, because he never saw someone like me umpiring a baseball game. Eventually, after an hour into the game with awkward silence between us two during the breaks, he finally talked. The first words out of his mouth were : "You have a good eye. Everyone thought that kid was safe, but you saw the half second between his foot hitting the base and the ball. Good call! "

That loosened me up a lot, as he asked "What grade are you in?" ; 

"I'm 15 and a sophomore." ; 

"Yeah, you look young, how long you've been umping for?"

"Around 3 years"

He told me about his son who enlisted in the Army after graduating from college. I told him that the college I'm interested in was West Point. I guess this was an eye opener for him, as he let out a really long "Ohh reaaaalllyyy?" 

Being the skinny kid and Asian, West Point was the last college he would have guessed. Then a big smile appeared on his wrinkled face, "You are different, you know? I wish you all the best!" 

I smiled back to him: "Yes, thank you!" 

I'm proud to be an atypical ABC (American Born Chinese), and I wish more and more ABCs will dare to be different and be themselves, so that the mainstream people won't stereotype us Asian Americans as nerds. We are Americans just like any others.

Jeffrey GU : I do not believe in stereotype. Do what you enjoy and excel at what you're good at. I did not discover my passions at an early age like many modern Americans, but matured into them through a tedious system of trial and error. I am a current high school junior at Hopkins School in New Haven, Connecticut. I've served two years as a grade-wide Representative and likewise as a staff member aboard the school newspaper, The Razor. In the 2015-2016 school year, I took a Leave of Absence from Hopkins in order to follow a passion in playing ice hockey. For eight months, I lodged with a Junior A hockey team in a small town in Ontario, Canada, away from family and friends. During that time, I lived in four different houses, had five different head coaches, trained five hours daily (four hours on-ice, one hour gym), participated in assorted community service, completed online school work, and played games on the weekends.  I'm a stronger person for having experienced the world outside my "bubble". I am authoring a book on my experiences and currently balancing a blog with my Hopkins workload. I will be participating in the annual Princeton Model Congress this year and am looking forward to playing an increasingly active role in politics.

Megan Pan : I am currently a rising junior at the Pingry School, and my interests lie mostly in the humanities. Writing is one of my passions, and I have won several writing awards both in school-wide and national contests. Within my school community, I am an assistant editor of the school newspaper and captain of the Creative Writing Club. Having trained public speaking ever since childhood, I have competed both in the Poetry-Out-Loud recitation competition as a state finalist and in the William Paterson Poetry Contest, a multilingual poetry recitation contest, as the recipient of first place winner in the Native Chinese category. I am also very active in the school's drama program, and I have held a leadership position in the school's K-Pop dance club. Growing up as a person of Chinese heritage in America, I have always been interested in exploring different cultures. I enjoy traveling, and over the course of the past two years, I have toured cities in France on a school trip, studied Japanese as part of a homestay, and interned while living independently in China.

Roger Zou - is a senior at Harvard University concentrating in Computer Science, with a secondary in Psychology. He has previously worked as a software engineering intern at Google and Square, and was a Kleiner Perkins Caufield & Bryers Engineering Fellow. He is heavily involved with the Computer Science community on campus, having served as President of the Harvard Computer Society and HackHarvard, the annual intercollegiate hackathon at Harvard. Board games, music, and anime take up most of his spare time.

Truman Liu : I graduated from Georgetown University with a double-major in business and a minor in Chinese. In college, I served as President of the Georgetown Scholarship Program, admissions committee reviewer for high school applicants, and NJ State Chair for Georgetown's admissions ambassador program. Those positions not only gave me a platform to serve high school / college students, but also provided me with great learning experiences, which I thoroughly enjoyed. Currently, I work in Management Consulting at PwC to help corporations tackle difficult business problems. One of my pro bono projects allowed me to use business for good, as I worked with a nonprofit client to scale its operations. At PwC, I was also elected to serve on the New York Metro Staff Council, which aims to improve the overall work experience for thousands of staff members. Aside from work, I am a music enthusiast whenever I am performing, teaching, or listening to music.

Fishbowl Forum moderators:

Joy Zhao : full time works and teaches at NJ YingHua International School, the exclusive private bilingual school on the east coast combining Chinese immersion education with the inquiry-based curriculum framework (www.yhis.org). She is also a senior Hostess for PCE <Talk with Youth and Teenagers Seminar> at PCE Annual Conference. Joy has been an active volunteer at Tzu Chi Foundation, a charity organization for over 10 years. A mother of two, a 16-year old girl and 11-year old boy, with whom she enjoys a close and happy relationship.

Angela Chiu : immigrated to the U.S. with her family when she was eighteen. She received her Ph.D. degree in EECS from MIT. She is a principal inventive scientist at AT&T Labs and leads key architecture and designs. Dr. Chiu holds twenty-one U.S. patents. She has published papers extensively, and served as chairman for numerous international conferences and programs. She and her husband together with their two daughters live in Holmdel, New Jersey. Angela balances her busy and rich life with a deep love for the arts, music, and volunteering work for local communities. She treasures motherhood as the most rewarding journey in life. Since 2006, she has served as a moderator for PCE (Parents and Children Education) club online forum with over 900 members.

时间: 2016 年10 月15 日 星期六，下午12:00点至5:30点

地点: Crown Plaza, 2055 Lincoln Highway, Edison, NJ 08817

活动组织者: Nancy Chen, Qian Yang, Jingshan Zhang, Min Huang

提前报名（10月15日前在PCE 网站报名）:$25(家庭); 当天报名或现场:$30(家庭); 俱乐部付了年费($70)的会员: 免费. 网上付费：